The sexual responsibility of women

4101509780_4f8ce1dbdc_oAn active sexual life often requires a conscious and thoughtful decision about contraception, and the most common method across Europe, North and South America is the pill. That little oral contraceptive that liberated women’s sexual life. Does it still stand for that today?

There’s no arguing that hormones, and the balanced secretion of these, have an enormous importance in what comes to regulate physiological activities and behaviours, such as digestion, sleep, respiration, growth, stress and mood, just to name a few. So hormones can be responsible for really important survival things, but also for other aspects of your life, on a very relevant emotional level: your fear responses (andropause  in men will cause decreased production of testosterone which causes changes in behaviour and mood, such as taking less risks, feeling more fearful), how you see yourself and how you respond to others (increased irritability and sensitivity, and depressiveness in certain stages of women’s cycle; variations in sexual drive/libido, self-esteem).

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Assertiveness

For some of us being assertive is quite challenging and frightening.

Looking back at the situation where we wish we would have expressed ourselves and say what we really want, we can easily become frustrated and feel ashamed. But the truth is that there are reasons for not being as assertive as it makes sense to us.

Here’s a short article about it.

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Growing up in a household where your emotions are either actively discouraged or punished, or simply ignored takes a toll on you, a developing child. You internalize the message that your feelings, your needs, your views don’t matter. It’s a belief that’s rooted in childhood feelings. That belief / feeling is powerful, and it stays with you throughout your life.

Don’t make waves

Don’t talk about anything negative

Don’t let anyone else know what you feel, need or think

Don’t take up too much space

All of these messages are powerful deterrents to assertiveness. They make you feel, deep within yourself, that speaking up for yourself is not only a burden to others, it’s also just plain wrong

via Childhood Emotional Neglect: The Enemy of Assertiveness | Childhood Emotional Neglect

Finding Love Again, This Time With a Man

A beautiful article on love, ageing, life, optimism, making choices, and listening to yourself – written very honestly, and without stigmas.

 

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Finding Love Again, This Time With a Man

By HARRIS WOFFORDAPRIL

AT age 70, I did not imagine that I would fall in love again and remarry. But the past 20 years have made my life a story of two great loves.

On Jan. 3, 1996, the telephone rang just before midnight, interrupting the silence of the hospital room. From the bedside of my wife, Clare, I lifted the receiver. “Please hold for the president.” Bill Clinton had heard that Clare, struck by acute leukemia, was fading. She listened and smiled but was too weak to speak.

via Finding Love Again, This Time With a Man – The New York Times

Deleting your facebook account – how hard can it be?

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But let’s start from the beginning. Each of us started to be part of the facebook world at our own pace. Some of us soon had hundreds of friends, some not so much.

What we decide to post also varies a lot; you can talk openly about Continue reading

Internet and your Mental Health

This article is a very personal testimony about some harmful effects of always being  ‘connected’.

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The more you avoid the situations that cause you anxiety, the more anxiety they will cause, and soon enough the number of situations that cause you anxiety will increase. Your life will become narrower and the world will seem scarier.
But in your pocket is a device that allows you to avoid everything at all times.

via Anxious, depressed, scared? Close down the browser and face your fears | Joshua Williams | Opinion | The Guardian.

What Is Your Depression Telling You?

Symptoms do tell us something we really need to hear.

Here’s an article about it:

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Depression often conceals its own reason for being there. It is not unusual for a person to be depressed without being able to pinpoint some definite event that explains why they are depressed.This absence of a cause often makes it feel like depression has no meaning and is simply the sign of a brain in disarray.

 

via What Is Your Depression Telling You? – Insight.

Things people with Anxiety always wanted to tell you

Here is an article with very simple sentences with very important messages about anxiety and how it is experienced sometimes.

Take a look!

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Everyone gets anxious from time to time, which is why it can be difficult for us to understand people with chronic anxiety disorders. Anxiety disorders, however, can be socially and psychologically crippling for those who suffer from them, so The Mighty decided to help give these people a voice by collecting and publishing their comments about anxiety.

via 15+ Things People With Anxiety Always Wanted To Tell Their Friends | Bored Panda.

What defines Mental Health

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What tells me I’m making the right choices, how do I know if I’m balanced? It could almost be a question coming from an existentialist teenager, when actually we can revise these questions all throughout our lives. It seems we always should have answers, and that the explanations must be global and simultaneously apply to each one of us. But then, Continue reading

‘How to end up with the right partner’ – ?

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This was the title to a recent article  on Psychology Today and might be the question a lot of people encounter throughout their lives, either when they’re single, or (maybe even more often) when they are in a relationship and it comes up as a doubt: ‘did I make the right decision?’

The article seems to point to a prototype of a partner, a generalized image of a person having Continue reading